Love, loathing and leadership At a training a decade ago, I watched footage filmed at the famous Gottman “Love Lab” , a Seattle apartment kitted out with cameras to study the dynamic between couples. In one stand-out clip, the wife is at the window pointing excitedly at something on the ocean. Her husband then leans forward from his chair and, without looking at her, turns up the volume on the TV.   A roomful of therapists and one executive coach sucking air through their teeth at the same...

Photo by Pramod Kumar Sharma on Unsplash What's the big idea? Helping clients become more aware of patterns in their lives empowers them to change their relationship to topics that create issues for them in various domains of life, not just the one that is currently keeping them stuck. What’s a core distinction/tension here? A core distinction is between what a clients sees as an immediate problem or surface issue to be tackled and the deeper topic in which it is rooted which is often buried....

Photo by Veri Ivanona on Unsplash What's the big idea? How we experience time is different during different stages of our lives but also in the same stage but different parts of our lives. Being skilful with how we ‘use’ time means both being aware of our current assumptions and habits with regard to time and making appropriate adjustments. What’s a core distinction/tension here? On a clock, each second is indistinguishable from another. But in our experience of time, not all time is equal. A...